Ten minutes. One honest look at your marriage.
Take the private assessment, get your Relationship Blueprint, then receive a personal week by week program of small, specific assignments that actually move your marriage forward.
Private. Free to start.
One question, right now
After a hard moment with your spouse, what do you usually do?
What you receive
A map of your marriage, written only about you.
Relationship Blueprint
Jordan & Riley
Prepared privately
Where you stand
Jordan and Riley, you have a strong foundation built on security, loyalty, and a real craving for closeness. One of you moves fast and leads with drive; the other brings steadiness and care. Your shared picture of the future gives you a clear direction for this next season.
Conflict style
Jordan
Jordan is direct and pushes for immediate resolution, often becoming more intense during the process. Stands their ground and wants to be heard.
Riley
Riley also wants things settled fast to remove the tension, but may give in to end the conflict, which can lead to resentment later.
What keeps each of you going
Jordan
Jordan is motivated by accomplishment and tangible results. Measures the week by what got solved and what got built.
Riley
Riley is motivated by harmony, stability, and being there for the people they love. Finds fulfillment in an orderly, warm life.
Under stress
Jordan
Jordan withdraws into solitude and focuses on a plan. Can become rigid or controlling when things feel out of hand.
Riley
Riley becomes more emotional and short-tempered. Needs closeness and reassurance to feel grounded again.
The pattern we see
The Space and Reassurance Loop
Jordan recharges in solitude. Riley recharges through connection. So when Jordan pulls away for space, Riley's instinct is to reach out, which can leave Jordan feeling crowded and Riley feeling abandoned. Jordan's need for space is about energy, never about love. Naming this loop is the first step to loosening it.
What each of you tends to miss
Jordan tends to miss
That Riley's need for reassurance is not neediness. It is the way Riley feels safe.
Riley tends to miss
That Jordan's intensity is care in disguise. It is how Jordan shows this matters.
Your first four weeks
- Week 1
Notice it
Jordan names the moment the need for space appears. Riley names the moment the silence starts to ache.
- Week 2
Signal, do not assume
Jordan says, I need an hour to recharge, and I will be back at eight. Riley answers, okay, I am here when you come back.
- Week 3
Return well
After time apart, Jordan initiates five minutes of closeness. A hug, a hand held. Riley names how the space helped.
- Week 4
Make it yours
A short weekly check-in about how the new rhythm feels, adjusted to your real life.
Milestones you will reach
- A need for space is voiced, and met with calm instead of worry.
- A disagreement ends with both of you feeling heard, not with one of you giving in.
- After a hard week, you reach for each other first and solve the problem second.
A condensed sample. Yours is longer, more specific, and written entirely from your own answers.
Click here to download a full samplePrivate. Free to start.
How it works
Three steps, in order.
- 01
You each answer a few short chapters, alone.
Pause anytime. Your partner answers separately. Nothing is shared between you until you are both done.
- 02
You receive your Blueprint.
Once you have both finished, we write a clear, personal map of your marriage in plain language.
- 03
You start your weekly program.
Each week you get one small step, chosen from your Blueprint, for the two of you to do together.
The part most couples never get
Knowing what is wrong is not enough. You need to know what to do this week.
Most couples who are struggling do not lack love or effort. They lack specific instructions. Your Blueprint tells you what is happening. Your program tells you what to do about it, one small assignment at a time.
An example, week 3 of 6
Ask for what you need, out loud, once.
This week, each of you makes one clear, specific request instead of hoping your spouse will notice. Not a complaint. A request. "Could you sit with me for ten minutes after dinner?" Small, doable, and built directly from what your Blueprint revealed about how you each hear things.
At the end of the week you talk for fifteen minutes about how it went. Then the next assignment arrives.
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Six weeks to start
Six weeks is the minimum time for real change to take hold. One focused assignment each week, never overwhelming.
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One step at a time
One focused assignment a week, built from your own answers. Need longer than six weeks? You can extend, week by week.
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Add a coach when you want one
Work with a couples coach weekly or twice a month. They read your Blueprint and guide the work with you.
Free to start. Your program begins when your Blueprint is ready.
Why it is different
Built around your marriage, not a template.
It starts with both of you, privately. Nothing is written until both assessments are done.
It maps your marriage, not a category. No labels, no scores, no verdicts.
It says the specific thing. That is far more useful than being told everything looks fine.
How It Works
Start together. Get your Blueprint. Decide what comes next.
You both complete a private assessment, completely free. Once both assessments are finished, we create your Blueprint.
Then you choose how to move forward
Do it yourself with your Blueprint and weekly program.
Or work with a coach who guides both of you through the process.
There is no cost and no commitment until your Blueprint is complete.
The Relationship Blueprint Promise
If your Blueprint genuinely does not sound like the two of you, tell us within 7 days and we refund what you paid, in full.
An Honest Note
This only works if you are both willing to be honest.
You will be asked questions about your marriage that may not always be easy to answer. The value comes from answering honestly, not from giving the "right" answer.
This is not a compatibility test, a personality test, or therapy. It does not tell you whether your marriage will succeed or fail.
It gives both of you a clear picture of where your marriage stands today, so you can see what is working, what needs attention, and where to begin.
What you choose to do with that insight is up to you.
Questions
Before you begin.
Married By Design is not a substitute for therapy or mental health treatment. If you or your spouse are facing a crisis, domestic violence, or safety concerns, please contact a qualified professional, call 988 (Suicide and Crisis Lifeline), or reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
The founder
They came to me for business. The real work was at home.
For more than two decades, I worked privately with founders, executives, and business leaders. They arrived wanting sharper strategy, better focus, stronger performance. Again and again, the deeper pattern was the same: the strain they felt at work was rooted in what was happening at home. When we did the careful work on the marriage first, the business often steadied too. More presence. Sharper thinking. More capacity for the people who mattered. That is why I built Married By Design.
Ran, founder
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