Private Assessments
Each of you completes an in depth private assessment across nine areas of married life. Responses stay private until both of you are done.
For married couples tired of having the same conversation over and over.
See What's Really Happening in Your Marriage Before You Guess What to Do Next
A private platform that helps married couples understand why they feel stuck, then helps them find a clearer place to begin.
Backed by our Couple Map Promise. If your map doesn't sound like the two of you, tell us within 7 days for a full refund.
“We would rather tell you something specific than something flattering.”
A glimpse at your Couple Map
A map of your unique marriage.
A quiet, observant look at the forces already shaping how you two move together. Not a personality label. A private document, written only about you.
Couple Map, No. 042
Jordan & Riley
Sample
Prepared privately
01. Communication under stress
Jordan
Moves toward the moment.
Wants to name what happened and settle it before the day ends. Pace is the reassurance.
Riley
Needs quiet before words.
Processes internally first, then speaks with clarity a few hours later. Space is the reassurance.
02. Emotional intimacy
Jordan
Close through shared activity.
Side by side, doing something together, is where connection quietly lives.
Riley
Close through undivided attention.
Eye contact, slower pace, and being fully seen are what make it land.
03. Extended family
Jordan
Family at a careful distance.
Protects the marriage as its own unit first, before anything else is invited in.
Riley
Family as an extension of home.
Wants both worlds to feel woven together, without one having to shrink for the other.
Primary alignment
A shared financial rhythm you both already trust.
Money is treated as a shared project rather than a private one. Decisions get made together, quietly, without keeping score.
How to use it
When a harder conversation stalls, start it beside a small financial decision you already agree on. The steadiness there gives the harder topic somewhere to land.
Primary friction pattern
Different clocks after a hard moment.
Jordan moves toward resolution quickly. Riley needs time before returning. Neither is wrong. The mismatch is where recurring stuck moments begin.
Weekly practice
Agree on one shared pause phrase. Something as simple as, “I want to come back to this at eight.”
A question to sit with
What does “we're okay again” actually feel like, for each of you?
Four week integration
- W1
Name the pattern out loud
Each name one recent stuck moment. No fixing, only listening.
- W2
Agree on a pause phrase
Choose one shared phrase for space. Practice it in a low stakes moment.
- W3
Return with a repair line
Riley opens the return, Jordan waits. Keep it to two sentences.
- W4
Reflect on what shifted
Compare notes on the week. Keep what worked, adjust one thing.
The path forward
Step 01
Repair rhythm
Step 02
Intimacy language
Step 03
Family boundaries
Milestones to look for
A hard moment ends without a lingering next day. One quiet evening a week that feels unhurried.
Suggested program
An eight week program, guided on your own.
Ref. MAP-JR-042
A condensed preview. Yours will be longer, more specific, and written entirely from your own assessments.
The private assessment
The most in depth part of Married By Design happens before you ever see a recommendation.
Each of you completes your own private assessment across nine areas of married life. Your answers stay private until both of you finish.
Nothing is generated, and nothing is shared between you, until both assessments are complete.
About 45 to 60 minutesPause and resume anytimeFully private
Nine dimensions
- 01Communication under stress
- 02Conflict and repair
- 03Emotional intimacy
- 04Life direction and shared vision
- 05Motivation and support
- 06Money and security
- 07Pressure and stress patterns
- 08Extended family
- 09Behavioral style
How the platform works
Understand your marriage first. Then act on what you find.
Your Couple Map
A plain language picture of where your marriage naturally works well, where friction keeps showing up, and how those patterns connect.
Your Week by Week Program
Built from your Couple Map, not a generic library. Weekly check ins adapt the remaining weeks based on what is actually helping.
Optional Human Coaching
Add a coach if you want one. Every session begins with a briefing from your Couple Map and real activity, so your time starts with context.
What makes this different
Built around your marriage, not around a template.
1
It starts with both partners, privately.
Nothing is generated until both of you finish your own assessment.
2
It maps your marriage, not a category.
You get a Couple Map written specifically about your relationship, not a personality label.
3
The program belongs to your marriage.
Your weekly plan is generated from your Couple Map, not selected from a library everyone receives.
4
It changes as you do.
Weekly check ins shape what comes next instead of following a predetermined schedule.
5
We say the specific thing.
If your assessments reveal difficult patterns, your Couple Map will name them plainly. That is far more useful than being told everything looks fine.
How it works
Four quiet steps, in order.
- 01
Complete your private assessments.
You and your spouse each answer separately. Nothing is shared between you yet.
- 02
Your Couple Map is prepared.
Once both assessments are done, your personalized Couple Map is generated.
- 03
Choose your path.
Pick a recommended program length and decide between the DIY experience or added coaching.
- 04
Begin your personalized program.
Your Couple Map and full program unlock immediately after payment, and adapt through weekly check ins.
Why we built this
Most couples wait, hope, and keep guessing.
Married By Design exists because generic advice cannot tell you why your marriage keeps returning to the same patterns. Only your own answers can.
We built a private assessment across nine dimensions of married life, an AI model tuned to write in a warm, specific, non clinical voice, and a program that adapts to the two of you week by week. Coaching is available for couples who want a real human alongside them, but the platform stands on its own.
We are new. You will not find invented testimonials on this page. As real couples finish the platform and choose to share their experience, we will publish them here.
Is this a fit?
An honest look before you begin.
This is a fit if...
- You are married.
- You both want a better understanding of why the same patterns keep repeating.
- You are willing to answer honestly, even when the answers are uncomfortable.
- You want guidance built around your marriage instead of generic advice.
This probably is not a fit if...
- One partner has no interest in participating.
- You are looking for quick answers without any reflection together.
- You want a compatibility score or personality label.
- Your marriage is facing an immediate safety or emergency situation that requires crisis support.
Pricing
Choose the level of guidance that fits your marriage.
Most couples begin with a six week personalized program.$150 total. One time. No subscription.
DIY
$150 total for a six week program. $25 per additional week.
Every program is personalized to your Couple Map.
Paid once, up front. No recurring charges.
Coached
From $500 per month for biweekly sessions.
Weekly coaching available at $1,000 per month.
Includes a free 30 minute introductory call.
10% discount when a six month commitment is prepaid.
Our Couple Map Promise
Complete your private assessments, and if your Couple Map genuinely doesn't sound like the two of you, tell us within 7 days and we'll refund what you've paid, in full.
After that 7 day window, once your personalized program is underway, there are no refunds.
What we don't promise
Honest about what a platform can and cannot do.
No platform can promise what two people will choose to do with what they learn. We cannot promise every marriage becomes stronger, or every difficult conversation becomes easy.
What we can promise is a personalized picture of your marriage based on what both of you actually shared, and a program built around that picture instead of generic relationship content.
Everything beyond that depends on two people willing to keep showing up.
Frequently asked questions
Questions couples ask before starting.
Not a crisis service.
Married By Design is not a substitute for professional therapy or mental health treatment. If you or your partner are experiencing a mental health crisis, domestic violence, or safety concerns, please contact a qualified professional, call 988 (Suicide and Crisis Lifeline), or reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
About the founder
Two decades of private work with people whose real challenge was at home.
For more than two decades, Ran worked privately with executives, founders, and business leaders in thousands of one to one coaching sessions. Many arrived believing the problem was strategy, focus, or performance.
The deeper pattern was almost always the same. When a marriage is under strain, it quietly drains focus, confidence, and capacity everywhere else. When we worked on what was happening at home first, other parts of life often steadied too.
I built Married By Design so couples can access that same private, high trust, deeply practical process directly. A structured way to understand why they feel stuck, and a clearer place to begin.
Ran, founder
Stop Guessing. Start Understanding Your Marriage.
Begin with a clearer picture of your marriage, then decide where you want to go from there.
Backed by our Couple Map Promise. Full refund within 7 days if your map doesn't sound like the two of you.