Married By Design

A private assessment for two

Understand yourself. Understand each other.

You each answer questions about yourself, how you relate to your spouse, and what matters to you. We turn your answers into two individual profiles and a clear side-by-side picture of the two of you.

See what you understand differently when you can finally see it side by side.

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Assessment is free to start. Your Relationship Blueprint is $99. No commitment.

The simple idea

Sometimes you are both right. You are just seeing it differently.

Two people can love each other and still see the same situation completely differently.

One needs space. The other needs reassurance.

One wants to talk immediately. The other needs time.

One sees a practical problem. The other feels an emotional one.

Neither is necessarily wrong. They may simply be experiencing the same moment differently.

Put yourself in each other's shoes.

Married By Design helps you do that.

How it works

You answer. We show you both sides. You choose.

  1. 01

    You each answer privately.

    You and your spouse complete the assessment separately. Your spouse does not see your individual answers. It can take up to 40 minutes, and you can pause and return whenever you want.

  2. 02

    We show you yourself, your spouse, and the difference between you.

    You each receive an individual profile. Then your side-by-side Relationship Blueprint shows where you are alike, where you differ, what each of you needs, and where misunderstandings may happen.

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    You decide what to do with the clarity.

    Use the Blueprint and 6-week program yourselves, or add a coach for weekly or twice-monthly guidance. Coaching is optional.

What you receive

Two profiles. One shared picture.

See yourself clearly. See your spouse more clearly. Then see what the differences between you may mean for your relationship.

See a sample Relationship Blueprint

Relationship Blueprint

Jordan & Riley

Sample

How Jordan and Riley tend to approach things

JordanRiley
Making decisionsWants to understand the options, then decide and move forwardWants to talk it through and feel that both perspectives have been heard
Feeling supportedAppreciates practical help and solutionsAppreciates empathy, attention, and emotional reassurance
When something is wrongFocuses on what can be done to fix itWants to understand how each person feels before looking for a solution

Together. What we see side by side.

The Solve-It / Hear-Me Pattern

When something goes wrong, Jordan tends to move toward a solution. Riley tends to move toward conversation.

Jordan may think, "Let's figure out what we can do."

Riley may be thinking, "I need you to understand how this feels before we fix it."

Jordan's attempt to help can leave Riley feeling unheard. Riley's desire to keep talking can leave Jordan feeling like nothing is getting resolved.

Neither is necessarily wrong.

They are trying to help in two different ways.

What Jordan may need from Riley

A clear point at which the conversation can move toward a decision or solution.

What Riley may need from Jordan

A little time and attention to feel heard before moving into problem-solving.

A small change that may help

Before trying to solve the problem, Jordan can ask:

"Do you want me to listen, or do you want help figuring out what to do?"

That one question can change the conversation.

A condensed sample. Yours is longer, more specific, and written entirely from your own answers.

See the full sample Relationship Blueprint

What clarity can change

When you understand each other, things can feel different.

You may stop assuming your spouse is ignoring you when they are actually overwhelmed.

You may stop seeing a need for space as rejection.

You may stop seeing a need for reassurance as pressure.

You may become more willing to accommodate something that used to frustrate you because you finally understand why it matters.

The goal is not for the two of you to become the same. It is to understand the two people who are already here.

Optional 6-week program

Want to do something with what you learned?

Your Relationship Blueprint can become a practical 6-week program. Start with the 6-week program. If you want to continue, you can extend it to 12 weeks or longer. Each week gives you one small, specific thing to discuss, practice, or try together.

One week. One thing. Together.

This week's exercise

Tell your spouse what you need before you expect them to notice.

Choose one small moment this week. Name the need without blame. Try, “I could use ten quiet minutes together after dinner.”

What you do

Make one clear request. At the end of the week, spend fifteen minutes talking about what felt different.

Optional coaching

Want someone to do it with you?

You do not need a coach to use Married By Design. If you want additional guidance, a coach can join you and your spouse as you work through the weekly exercises.

Weekly

Four coaching sessions each month.

Talk through the exercise, what happened during the week, and what to work on next.

Twice a month

Two coaching sessions each month.

Keep more time between conversations while still having a coach beside both of you.

What it costs

Pay once to understand. Pay once to practice. Pay monthly for coaching.

The assessment is free. Once both of you finish, you can purchase your Relationship Blueprint for $99, add the 6-week program for a total of $149, or choose coaching. You do not need to decide everything at the beginning.

Understand

Relationship Blueprint

For the couple

one time

$99

Includes both individual profiles and your side-by-side Relationship Blueprint.

Relationship Blueprint Promise

Read your Blueprint. If within 7 days you feel, “This does not sound like us,” tell us and we'll refund your $99 in full.

Practice

Blueprint + 6-Week Program

Most popular

one time

$149

Everything in the Blueprint, plus 6 weeks of guided homework.

Already purchased the Blueprint? Add the 6-week program for just $50 more.

Get help

Relationship Coaching

Twice a month

per month

$500

Weekly

per month

$900

You get lifetime access to your Relationship Blueprint and dashboard. The 6-week program is not a subscription. Coaching is optional and billed monthly.

View pricing and choose a plan

Privacy

Your answers are yours.

You each answer privately. Your individual assessment answers remain private from your spouse.

Each of you receives your own individual profile and can choose whether to share it with your spouse. Your side-by-side Relationship Blueprint is shared with both of you.

Authorized Married By Design staff, coaches, and service providers may process information when needed to provide and support the service. We use reasonable safeguards, but no online service can guarantee absolute security.

We do not sell your personal information.

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An honest note

This works best when both people are willing to answer honestly.

Some questions may make you think. Some may be uncomfortable. There are no right answers.

Married By Design is not therapy, a diagnosis, or a verdict on your marriage. It does not tell you whether your marriage will succeed or fail.

It gives you a clearer picture of the two people in the relationship and the space between them. What you choose to do with that understanding is up to you.

FAQ

Direct answers.

Is the assessment free?
Yes. Both of you can complete the assessment without paying. After both assessments are complete, the personalized Relationship Blueprint is $99 one time.
Do both of us have to take it?
Yes. The two individual profiles and side-by-side Blueprint require answers from both spouses.
Can I take it before my spouse?
Yes. Either spouse can begin first. Your spouse receives a private invitation and completes their assessment separately.
Will my spouse see my answers?
No. Your spouse does not automatically receive your individual responses. They see the profiles and shared Relationship Blueprint created from both sets of answers.
How long does it take?
The assessment can take up to 40 minutes per person. You can pause and return later.
What do we receive?
You receive two individual profiles and a side-by-side Relationship Blueprint showing similarities, differences, needs, and patterns between you.
What happens after we receive the Blueprint?
You can stop with the Blueprint, add the self-guided 6-week program, or choose coaching. The Blueprint + 6-week program is $149 one time. If you already own the $99 Blueprint, adding the program costs $50.
Do we need a coach?
No. Coaching is optional. You can purchase the $99 Blueprint on its own or use the Blueprint + 6-week program for $149 one time.
How does coaching work?
Choose two coaching sessions each month for $500 per month, or four coaching sessions each month for $900 per month. Your coach helps both of you discuss the weekly exercise, understand what happened, and choose what to practice next.
How long is the program?
The self-guided program lasts 6 weeks. The Blueprint and program together cost $149 one time. If you already own the $99 Blueprint, you can add the program for $50.
Is this therapy?
No. Married By Design is a relationship education and reflection platform. It does not diagnose or replace professional care.
Is this a personality test?
No. It does not assign a personality type, score, or verdict. It describes each person's responses, needs, and relationship patterns, then shows them side by side.
Is this a subscription?
The Relationship Blueprint and 6-week program are one-time purchases. Only coaching is monthly, at $500 for twice-a-month sessions or $900 for weekly sessions.
What if the Blueprint does not feel accurate?
Read your Blueprint. If within 7 days you feel, “This does not sound like us,” tell us and we'll refund your $99 in full.
Ran Biderman, founder of Married By Design

The founder

Understanding changes how we respond.

Ran spent years helping founders, executives, and business leaders understand what was getting in the way of their performance. Again and again, he saw that what happened at home affected how people showed up everywhere else. Married By Design grew from that observation.

Read Ran's story

Understand each other better.

You each answer privately. We show you both sides. Then you decide what you want to do with what you learn.

Take the assessment

Assessment is free to start. Your Relationship Blueprint is $99. Private. No commitment.

Take the assessment