Married By Design

Married By Design. Start privately.

Feeling distant or misunderstood in your marriage?

Whether conversations turn into arguments or you barely talk, understanding the pattern is a place to start.

Begin alone, with private answers. Relationship Clarity offers personalized insights into what may be getting in the way, and practical steps you can start taking. Your spouse does not need to participate.

35–45 minutes. Pause and resume anytime. Free to answer, $49 to unlock your personalized Clarity results and action plan.

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Relationship Clarity. For one person.

See your part in the pattern. Find one thing to try.

Your results connect what feels difficult with how you describe responding. You get a personal profile, insights from your side, and steps you can begin on your own.

Your spouse does not need to participate. If you choose to invite them later, your valid answers carry forward and your $49 counts toward the $99 Blueprint.

Illustrative example, not a customer report

“I go quiet when a conversation gets tense.”

A pattern from your side
Suppose you describe going quiet to gather your thoughts, then leaving the conversation unfinished. You want time to think, but the same issue keeps coming back.
How it might be misunderstood
Your silence could look like not wanting to talk. That is a possibility to ask about, not a fact about what your spouse thinks.
One step you could try
“I want to talk about this. I need a little time to think. Can we come back to it after dinner?”
Notice whether naming your pause makes it easier for you to return to the conversation.

A short, invented example of an individual insight and action step. Your personalized results depend on your answers. They do not reveal your spouse’s private thoughts or establish facts about their experience.

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35–45 minutes. Pause and resume. Free to answer, $49 to unlock personalized results.

The two-person Blueprint. Jordan & Riley.

One wants to solve it. The other wants to feel heard.

Jordan

“Let’s figure out what we can do.”

Riley

“I need you to hear me before we fix it.”

Jordan’s help can feel like not listening. Riley’s need to talk can feel like avoiding a solution. Neither is necessarily wrong. They may need different things in the same moment.

An illustrative couple example. The $99 Relationship Blueprint needs both spouses’ private answers, unlike individual Clarity.

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How it works

You answer. We show you both sides. You choose.

If you start alone, your Relationship Clarity results are yours. If your spouse joins later, your valid answers carry forward and you complete only what is still needed. The steps below show how the two-person Relationship Blueprint works.

  1. 01

    You each answer privately.

    You and your partner complete the 9-Dimension Relationship Assessment separately. Your partner does not see your individual answers. Allow 35–45 minutes, and you can pause and return whenever you want.

  2. 02

    We show you yourself, your partner, and the difference between you.

    You each receive an individual profile. Then your side-by-side Relationship Blueprint shows where you are alike, where you differ, what each of you needs, and where misunderstandings may happen.

  3. 03

    You decide what to do with the clarity.

    Start with your Blueprint. If you want to go further, a 6-week program and private coaching are optional.

What you receive

Two profiles. One shared picture.

See yourself clearly. See your partner more clearly. Then see what the differences between you may mean for your relationship.

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Relationship Blueprint

Jordan & Riley

Sample

How Jordan and Riley tend to approach things

JordanRiley
Making decisionsWants to understand the options, then decide and move forwardWants to talk it through and feel that both perspectives have been heard
Feeling supportedAppreciates practical help and solutionsAppreciates empathy, attention, and emotional reassurance
When something is wrongFocuses on what can be done to fix itWants to understand how each person feels before looking for a solution

Together. What we see side by side.

The Solve-It / Hear-Me Pattern

When something goes wrong, Jordan tends to move toward a solution. Riley tends to move toward conversation.

Jordan may think, "Let's figure out what we can do."

Riley may be thinking, "I need you to understand how this feels before we fix it."

Jordan's attempt to help can leave Riley feeling unheard. Riley's desire to keep talking can leave Jordan feeling like nothing is getting resolved.

Neither is necessarily wrong.

They are trying to help in two different ways.

What Jordan may need from Riley

A clear point at which the conversation can move toward a decision or solution.

What Riley may need from Jordan

A little time and attention to feel heard before moving into problem-solving.

A small change that may help

Before trying to solve the problem, Jordan can ask:

"Do you want me to listen, or do you want help figuring out what to do?"

That one question can change the conversation.

A condensed sample. Yours is longer, more specific, and written entirely from your own answers.

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What clarity can change

When you understand each other, things can feel different.

You may stop assuming your partner is ignoring you when they are actually overwhelmed.

You may stop seeing a need for space as rejection.

You may stop seeing a need for reassurance as pressure.

You may become more willing to accommodate something that used to frustrate you because you finally understand why it matters.

The goal is not for the two of you to become the same. It is to understand the two people who are already here.

Optional next steps

Practice together

The optional 6-week program gives you small things to discuss, practice, or try together.

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Private coaching

If you want guidance, choose optional weekly or twice-monthly conversations with a coach.

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What it costs

Choose the understanding you need now.

Start alone and answer privately before paying $49 to open your personalized Clarity results. For the two-person Blueprint, both spouses can finish before paying $99 to open the shared result. If you begin with Clarity and later upgrade, your $49 credit applies and the remaining cost is $50.

Start alone

Relationship Clarity

For one person

one time, paid when results are ready

$49

Your personalized Relationship Clarity results and a practical action plan based on your answers.

Start by yourself

Understand

Relationship Blueprint

For the couple

one time

$99

Includes both individual profiles and your side-by-side Relationship Blueprint.

Relationship Blueprint Promise

Read your Blueprint. If within 7 days you feel, “This does not sound like us,” tell us and we'll refund your $99 in full.

Your Relationship Blueprint includes lifetime access to your report and Relationship Space. Optional program and coaching details are on the pricing page.

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Privacy

Your answers are yours.

You answer privately, whether you begin alone or together. Your individual assessment answers remain private from your partner.

Each of you receives your own individual profile and can choose whether to share it with your partner. Your side-by-side Relationship Blueprint is shared with both of you.

Authorized Married By Design staff, coaches, and service providers may process information when needed to provide and support the service. We use reasonable safeguards, but no online service can guarantee absolute security.

We do not sell your personal information.

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An honest note

Honest answers are what make the picture useful.

Some questions may make you think. Some may be uncomfortable. There are no right answers.

Married By Design is not therapy, a diagnosis, or a verdict on your relationship. It does not tell you whether your marriage will succeed or fail.

Clarity results reflect the perspective of the person who answers. A Relationship Blueprint brings both private perspectives together. What you choose to do with that understanding is up to you.

FAQ

Direct answers.

Is the assessment free?
You can answer the questions before paying. If you start alone, it is $49 to open your personalized Relationship Clarity results. If you start together, both spouses can finish before paying $99 to open the Relationship Blueprint.
Do both of us have to take it?
No. The Relationship Clarity Assessment is designed for one person and does not require your spouse. The side-by-side Relationship Blueprint requires both spouses, each answering privately.
Can I take it before my partner?
Yes. Either partner can begin first. Your partner receives a private invitation and completes their assessment separately.
Will my partner see my answers?
No. Your partner does not automatically receive your individual responses. They see the profiles and shared Relationship Blueprint created from both sets of answers.
How long does it take?
Allow 35–45 minutes per person. You can pause and return later.
What do I or we receive?
Starting alone gives you personalized Relationship Clarity results, patterns grounded in your answers, and practical steps you can take yourself. Starting together gives each spouse an individual profile and a shared Relationship Blueprint showing both perspectives side by side.
What happens if my spouse joins later?
Your valid assessment answers carry forward, so you complete only what is still needed. Your spouse answers privately, and your $49 Clarity purchase is credited toward the $99 Relationship Blueprint, leaving $50 to pay.
What happens after we receive the Blueprint?
You can stop with the Blueprint, or choose an optional 6-week program or private coaching. See the full offers and prices.
Is this therapy?
No. Married By Design is a relationship education and reflection platform. It does not diagnose or replace professional care.
Is this a personality test?
No. It does not assign a personality type, score, or verdict. It describes each person's responses, needs, and relationship patterns, then shows them side by side.
Is this a subscription?
Relationship Clarity and the Relationship Blueprint are one-time purchases. Optional coaching is billed monthly. See the pricing page for all options.
What if the Blueprint does not feel accurate?
Read your Blueprint. If within 7 days you feel, “This does not sound like us,” tell us and we'll refund your $99 in full.
Ran Biderman, founder of Married By Design

The founder

What happens at home matters everywhere else.

Ran spent years helping founders, executives, and business leaders understand what was getting in the way of their performance. Again and again, he saw that what happened at home affected how people showed up everywhere else.

Married By Design grew from that observation: that understanding the people closest to us can change how we communicate, how we handle conflict, and how we show up for each other.

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Begin with the perspective you have.

Start privately by yourself, or invite your spouse to understand both perspectives side by side.

Start by yourself

Relationship Clarity Assessment

Your spouse does not need to participate for you to understand your experience and begin with practical steps.

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Start together

Relationship Blueprint

You each answer privately, then see where your perspectives align, differ, and may be missing each other.

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